When life gives you a second chance, give your best shot; fortunately for me he did not shoot, but that did not deter me from having reoccurring thoughts like “what if the guy who approached us was reckless; and killed us.” God’s plan had a greater purpose, and although, at the time, I was unsure and questioning, “why me?”, I am blessed to have the opportunity to write this blog 19 years later. In fact, in 2015, it hit me, as my wife and I were near the end of our pregnancy and made the conclusion that it would be in the best interest that we pursue a C-section. Although the due date was October 8th, with twins full cycle is 38 weeks; for that reason, the doctor had to choose a date, so we can make plans to be ready on that day, and she opted for September 25th. A surreal moment for me; everything became a full circle. All the years of saying “Happy 925 day” to my best friend now had new meaning. I truly understood my purpose and why GOD kept my friend and me alive, which so I can help birth two beautiful girls into the world. You can’t make these things up!
Tag Archives: Twinlife
Identity Theft
From birth, your identity is associated with another person. Everyone says, “You look like your mom”, “You look like your Dad” ironically, for Mackenzie and Madison they look more like their parents then each other. Although they dress alike, and always together, if you just looked at them it would be easy to recognize the resemblance between Mackenzie and her mother; and Madison and myself. Unlike singletons, twins instantly have a best friend and playmate the moment they leave their mother’s womb; however, I feel bad for them, at times, that they do not get to find their true identity until adulthood. Twins are constantly viewed as one; they fight for attention, and want their voices heard. Overlooking or minimizing these details “as just a thing twins do,” would be a mistake, and I feel the constant comparison can lead to envy and jealously. Ideally, in a perfect world, I would like to help them separately recognize their own gifts and talents; however, I struggle finding time to give them their personal Daddy time because I am trying to accommodate both. As I mentioned on an earlier post, I want to please both, but that is just not physically possible to do on a consistent basis. How do you create personal time with multiple kids? For twins, do you feel that it is difficult to create your own identity?
Who am I?
Seeing the birth of your first child is one of the most amazing experiences one could ever imagine, but having two at the same time is unfathomable. I remember growing up in a household of 5 kids, being the oldest, I imagined what my family would look like. Did I want a big or a small family? Did I want all boys or a mixture? What if I never had kids? With all these unsettling questions, what I did know is that whatever God had in store for me I would embrace it. In addition, whether it was one or 5 kids, I would love them all the same, and there will be no room for doubt that love is prevalent in this household. Now fast forward to present day, or actually rewind to 3 years ago when I heard the quote of a lifetime “you’re having twins” Now, I didn’t faint literally, but mentally, I had no idea of what was in store, but all I knew was “this just got real.” For that reason, I was determined to be the best dad I could be and love my babies as hard as I could. Now after three years of on the job training, I feel like I can finally take the training wheels off, but each day humbles me to the reality that they are in control and I am just taking notes.
Chronicles of a Twin Dad 