These words encapsulates my favorite time of the evening, as my twin girls “request one last hug and kiss before bed time” and afterwards, I am free! LOL. But seriously, as I think of my day in its entirety, and all the ebb and flows; trials and tribulations, it’s nice to know that at minimum, my girls still desires an embrace from their father before going to sleep. Now sometimes, they do not always let me leave, and after the 5th hug, I have to put a little base in my voice and tell them “it’s time for me to leave.” As they say it’s the little things, and that is something that will always put a smile on my face. What is your special moment or interaction with your kids that if you reflect back gets you emotional?
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Favoritism
Recently, I was picking my girls from daycare, and as we arrived home and I began to start my routine (which is to run open the front door, then go back to car and go on each side unbuckling my girls out the car seat with the anticipation they may run down the street) so I have to be quick on my feet and as well as have my hands free, as I attempt to usher them inside the house. However, this day was different, as I attempted to get Mackenzie out of the car, Madison says to me “why do you always get Mackenzie out of the car first.” I was shocked and stunned. I didn’t know what to say, and as I thought about it, she was probably right, but it wasn’t anything intentional other than Mackenzie is usually eager to get out faster than Madison. This was my first moment of acknowledging how favoritism is not something you can control; however, it is something that as a parent we should always be mindful of that even at 3 years of age, our kids are always watching. From that point on, I make a conscious effort to rotate who I take out of the car. Have you ever had a moment when your child called you out? How did you deal with it? What things do you consciously do to avoid that from happening again?
Who am I?
Seeing the birth of your first child is one of the most amazing experiences one could ever imagine, but having two at the same time is unfathomable. I remember growing up in a household of 5 kids, being the oldest, I imagined what my family would look like. Did I want a big or a small family? Did I want all boys or a mixture? What if I never had kids? With all these unsettling questions, what I did know is that whatever God had in store for me I would embrace it. In addition, whether it was one or 5 kids, I would love them all the same, and there will be no room for doubt that love is prevalent in this household. Now fast forward to present day, or actually rewind to 3 years ago when I heard the quote of a lifetime “you’re having twins” Now, I didn’t faint literally, but mentally, I had no idea of what was in store, but all I knew was “this just got real.” For that reason, I was determined to be the best dad I could be and love my babies as hard as I could. Now after three years of on the job training, I feel like I can finally take the training wheels off, but each day humbles me to the reality that they are in control and I am just taking notes.
Chronicles of a Twin Dad 